Factors of everyday life can put an abundant strain on a relationship. Severe stressors may include resentment, infidelity, intimacy issues, lack of trust, and miscommunication. When problems go unresolved. Communicating effectively on both parts can alleviate emotional anxiety from subjects of all kind.
Couples often seek marriage counseling when the relationship is at a standstill, or if they are unsure whether or not the relationship is worth salvaging. This type of Jewish counseling can benefit families with children who have been affected by relationship issues such as divorce, and confront the source of the conflict.
Techniques may include the following :
- Narrative method
- Emotionally Focused method
- Positive thinking
- Imago Relationship method
- Getting to the root of the problem
- Individual sessions
What qualities make marriage so stable?
Marriage is not designed for the ethical management of the sexual drive, nor is it a concession to human weakness. Marriage makes its appearance within the natural order of creation, not as a law promulgated neither by Moses nor as a legal sanction, but as a blessing from G‑d. Just as woman was created as a separate being, "a helpmeet opposite" man (Genesis 2:18), the purpose for the creation of marriage is stated in five words: lo tov he-yot ha-adam le'vado—It is not good for man to be alone.
Marriage was created at the beginning, at the same time the principals of marriage were created. It was not an afterthought, designed to control their passions, but part of the natural order of human society. The moment we are born we are destined for marriage. When a newborn child is named, the prayer is le'chuppah u'le'maasim tovim (to the marriage canopy and a life of good deeds). Marriage is thus grounded in the primeval relationship of the sexes in order to perpetuate the species and enhance personal growth.
Love as described by Rabbi Isaac Arama, who commentated on the book of Bereshit. He describes and defines love as:
The unity of lovers as if they are one object.
To turn from two into one, from separated to united, to be connected to each other - that is love and that is its special power.
Rabbi Menachem ben Shlomo, one of the greatest commentators on the Talmud, adds: Love does not only mean physical contact and unity, but a more internal bonding, unity in mind and a common desire.
As he defines it:
Love is closeness of knowledge
and equality of desire.